Help an aging parent without carrying all of their mental load alone

In France, 9.3 million people say they regularly help a relative living with a disability or a loss of autonomy — 55% women, and half a million minors (DREES, 2023). More than one caregiver in two is employed, and 56% say they struggle to combine that help with work and family life (Fondation Médéric Alzheimer, 2024).

What weighs is not only the help itself. It is the anticipating: the prescription renewal coming up, the cardiologist appointment to book, the fridge to check, the question "did anyone stop by this weekend?". The 2024 barometer of the Je t'Aide collective puts mental and emotional load at the top of what caregivers describe, and nearly one in four says they carry it alone.

That load is badly shared because it is invisible: between siblings, between a spouse and children, nobody sees what the other has already thought of, checked or done. It is exactly what Mental Loadless measures inside a household — and, since version 2.4, between a household and the people who help it.

Your relative keeps their own household in the app — the data is theirs. They invite you with a code and choose a sharing map: surface by surface, they decide what you see and what you can do.

Seeing is always free. The link can be revoked at any time, from either side, and a log keeps who did what — the person is never presented with a done deal.

A family that already organizes itself with the app changes nothing: the caregiver link sits alongside, in a separate space, without mixing the two households.

When several people help the same relative, the question is not doing more, it is knowing who does what. In Mental Loadless, one of the person's appointments or tasks is taken on in a single tap. The other caregivers see it, and so does the person's household: no more double visits and crossed omissions.

Appointments you are assigned to appear in your calendar, dashed, with the household's name — you see them next to your own week without the person's calendar invading yours. One tap brings you back into their space.

If the person has named you, personally, for arrivals and departures, you get a sign when they come home or go out — no map, no route, no history. A caregiver they have not named receives nothing, even if the "arrivals" surface is open to them.

Treatments are entered in the person's household, with times in their local time. Each dose of the day is shown; a confirmed dose disappears, a dose not confirmed after 30 minutes alerts the caregivers who have access to this surface. When the prescription runs out, a "renew the prescription" task appears — never in the groceries.

Medication names and doses are encrypted on our servers and are never read by the AI, never shown on a wall screen, never sent in a notification. This health data falls under Article 9 of the GDPR: it only opens with a separate consent, which the person can withdraw.

Many aging parents will not install an app. Mental Loadless plans for that: you create their household on their device, answering "for someone I look after" to the first question. The account is theirs, the data is theirs, no analytics run from that device. You then join that household from your own, with a code.

If the person lives with a spouse, or if several siblings help, everyone joins the same supported household. The load is then measured like in any household: the mental load index says who anticipates and who checks, not only who executes.

Seeing a relative's household is free, whatever your subscription. To act in it, two cases: either their household already subscribes to Solo or above, and you act without adding anything; or you take the Caregiver option — an entitlement, not a plan — at €4.99 a month or €49.99 a year, which raises up to three supported households to Premium. The person pays nothing.

The option stacks with your own plan — Free, Essential, Solo or Family — without replacing it. Details in our pricing.